I am not a game player. It puts me at a disadvantage. Especially when it comes to dating. With my friends, it's a different bag. I am not counted out for being honest about who I am or what I want - but when it comes to dating and romantic stuff...jeeza-louisa.
Is there some rule book that I didn't get? Because it feels like there's this rigid framework in place that I totally have not been clued into.
It's not a big deal. It doesn't make me sad or angry...more like confused and uncertain.
So many dudes talk about how difficult women are, how they can't get laid, they can't get a girlfriend or even a date...well, I'm here to tell you that it's not limited to men. Women deal with the same stuff. We're just quiet about it.
Scratch that. We're not quiet about it, we talk ad nauseum about it to our girlfriends, but we don't write blog posts about it (well, maybe a few) or put it out there in the pop culture medium (well, a few do - to their credit). I think finding a partner - or, Hell, just someone to go see a movie with - is difficult all the way around. For everyone.
But it's the game playing that kills me. I just can't do it.
There's this whole weird thing where you're supposed to pretend like you're not interested in someone so that they work really hard to get your attention.
For example, there's like some archaic rule that if you don't reply to some dude's texts, he will - I swear to God - literally text you non-stop a whole, one-sided conversation that you never once have to reply to and by the end of it he's like begging you to go out with him. But if you make the mistake of even once replying back during his frenzy...then he immediately stops texting you.
So what am I supposed to do? Be a pretend texting fisherman? Trying to hook some poor guy with my disinterest and then coming in for the kill after letting him text himself into oblivion?
I like you. You like me. Seems like a really simple concept, right?
Makes me want to get myself to a nunnery. At least you're safe from all the bullshit there.
Because God doesn't text.